Teens who are in an abusive relationship may have a difficult time getting help for the following reasons:. There are many resources available for getting help for a teen who is in an abusive relationship. These resources can be found both locally and nationally. How to Help Teens Dealing with Dating Violence Dating abuse is a serious health concern for many students: One in three high school students will be involved in an abusive relationship. Forty-five percent of teenage girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend. Both girls and boys can be abused by a dating partner and both girls and boys can be abusers.